gender roles

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I choose hope

I told my partner that we have so many options ahead of us. I see so many paths, so many choices. I choose hope. We feel trapped. As a child, I had two recurring dreams where I was trapped, one in a local store called “Big Wheel”, and the other in my grandparents’ backyard where … Continue reading

this is why we can’t have nice things

Where do I begin? I was the only child of farming family in rural Pennsylvania. I had my first child when I was 18, my second at 23, and earned my Bachelor’s degree in the meantime. I had no clue how education connected to employment, or how to find┬áthat job. I struggled for my twenties … Continue reading

medical care in ruraltopia

Medical care in the United States is a joke. Sure, if you have insurance, and money, and live in the “right” place, then maybe it’s okay. “The best in the world” (totally not true). I am about 7 months pregnant. From the moment we started trying, I felt sure this system would probably kill me. … Continue reading

breadwinner’s dilemma

I spoke with a life insurance salesman today. I am going to purchase $600,000 worth of term life coverage. I figure within 10 years I can switch it to universal. If I live that long. I have a distinct fear of dying from this pregnancy. But I realized that if I were one of those … Continue reading

relishing the joy

I mean to relish the joy of pregnancy. My partner laughs at me, just a little, mostly shaking his head, when I say that I like being pregnant. The first 3 or 4 months I am so sick and exhausted that I can barely function. I nest for a full nine months, so part of … Continue reading